What Does a Private Dance Involve?
Hi bohemians! I’m back on the blog today – it’s been hard because of COVID-19 to get any balance between my day job, taking care of my daughter and finding any time to do the things to get through the week, ya know!
ANYWAY… today’s post is kind of piggy-backing off of another post about qualifications for stripping. Now I know with people losing their jobs and others put on leave who knows what the future holds. But the clubs will open again and maybe you might be looking for a new job! Some of the clubs in Texas have been working hard installing new carpet, getting new chairs and doing everything to be compliant with opening ASAP. That being said, I’m sure a lot of you read the other post and were like:
“Ok, I meet all of the qualifications but what do like I actually have to do?”
“Do I have to grind on strangers?”
“What is a private dance?”
YiKes! I know it’s hard to really picture it right now but I am going to try and explain some of these age-old questions for those looking to get into the industry as soon as COVID-19 is over.
This is quick post, I’m writing whilst my child finishes a movie so it’s a race against time people
1. A private dance is one that you will give to a client or patron of the club. It is typically done on their lap in some secluded area of the club.
A lap dance is just a dance on a client’s lap. Sometimes there are some pretty impressive acrobatics involved but usually it’s a dance on their lap for ONE SONG ONLY. During the lap dance you will get topless (at minimum) or full nude (maximum) depending on what kind of club you work at or what the rules are where you are dancing.
A private dance is actually not much different but it is obviously more private. Now this might scare (or encourage) some newbie dancers but really the one thing you must remember: CHARGE MORE FOR PRIVATE DANCES. Whether you decide to take it all off or just barely grind on them. Charge more.
What you decide to do in a private dance really depends. How private is it? Clubs usually have varying levels of VIP. I knew that some clubs behind the velvet ropes and black curtains (ahem) there were higher expectations for private dancing. But in some of the more relaxed and open areas of VIP you can decide what you’d like to do (unless the club has rules).
Private dances when you get down to it, just taking your clothes off in a seductive way for multiple songs in a row. You should expect to do this. Selling private dances is where you will make most of your money. Charging more for them or charging by the hour and just doing a few will really increase your income. It’s also a way to get more intimate with your client.
For example, maybe they are old and like it slow. Maybe they are young and annoying and you should spend as little as time as possible on their lap or stand far away when dancing. Maybe they are respectful, married men whom it’s fun to tease. You never know but you can find out during a private dance.
In simple words: yes, a private dance is grinding on strangers. There I said it. But with the examples I gave above you can see that there are many variations of this. For me, if I stayed out of the “back room with the velvet ropes” I also stayed out of trouble. I’m not opposed to girls doing extras – get your hustle baby! That just wasn’t for me. And many newbies or those interested in the industry may think you have to do extras during a private dance. I’m here to tell you – you absolutely DO NOT. You do not have to do anything you don’t want to.
Unlike what the movies portray, the mangers of the clubs don’t care what your boundaries are (for the most part - just don’t do anything illegal). They do not tell you who to dance for, or what to do during a dance (if they do, this is a big red flag and find a new club). Private dances are meant to be private. You can pick what you do with your client.
During a private dance, you can take off all your clothes or you can sit there and talk. You can pick what you do depending on the client. Private dances are just lap dances done in a secluded area of the club. That’s it.
If a client wanted me to do more, I would say “HA yeah right” and find another lap to sit on. You should never demoralize yourself because you want to make money. There are so many laps with a lot more money who expect less. If you don’t want to “do more” during a private dance then don’t. There is also probably another girl who will (not hating).
You should find the client that you match with so that you never feel uncomfortable and everyone has a good time! I mean that is what you are really selling – a good time and that definition varies for a lot of people. Don’t let private dancing intimidate you and also don’t look to the movies for a clear illustration of this (cough Hustlers, cough Showgirls). You do not have to do any extras, drugs and for god sakes the guy absolutely DOES NOT need to cum in his pants – GROSS.
I don’t want to leave you with that image so I will leave you with this: Don’t let private dancing be a thing you avoid or a reason not to get into the club and get your hustle on. I knew plenty of girls who only danced on the floor and made plenty of money. I know girls who only did privates. I mixed it up and didn’t really care because I set boundaries with myself and my clients. So I never felt like I was selling myself short (no pun intended J) .
Hope this clarifies what a private dance is, as soon as this COVID thing is over I’m sure you’ll all be giving them in no time!
Love and glitter – BW
